There are diaper bags for everyone,
Rocker chic? check. This one is by Rebecca Minkoff -
Feminine and into patterns? Check -
This company (Hoohobbers) has a lot of different sweet fabrics to choose from.
How about unisex so both you and the hubby can carry the same bag? Check -
Of course you could always buy the changing pad and wet bag and just add everything to the oversize purse you already carry. Or get a diaper clutch to keep everything together and compact and stick it in your big bag.
I like this one because you will never lose it in the chaos of a big bag -